Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Beyond

I feel beyond stressed out.
Beyond upset.
Beyond annoyed.
Beyond aggravated.

It's always something.
I just feel like myself and family need a break. Need something to go our way.
Even if it's just the little things.
Right now I am upset over something that I'm sure most people would agree is really just very trivial.
But it has pushed my emotions over the edge, to the point of tears, just from having so much pent up inside from other things.

I messaged a contact about renting the Clubhouse down the street for Meredith's birthday party a few weeks ago. In the past, all they required to book your date was the security deposit. Well upon messaging this person, he tells me all Saturdays in March are currently available, but they require the full amount (rental fee + security deposit) to secure your desired date. Well I didn't have it. But he made it sound like March wasn't busy, so my mistake I guess, I figured I'd be alright.
So fast forward to today, I had this lurking bad feeling (lo and behold I was right for feeling that way).
I message him, asking if the 24th is still available, and confirming the parts of the clubhouse we want to use and price, and how can we arrange to pay.
Well he tells me the 24th has been booked. so have this day, that day, this day, that day, and possibly this day and possibly this day.
So I'm like damn that filled up fast!! We're only halfway through February. And what the heck does "possibly" booked mean.
At first I'm just extremely upset. Then I get on their website, where I see it says that a deposit is needed to secure your date!! So now I'm mad. If that was the case, I could have had enough for the deposit only to secure my date weeks earlier when it was still available!!
Through a series of very annoying emails, first he's not understanding what I'm saying about what the website states their policy is. Then he thinks I'm trying to say I paid them, and says if I can show documentation of payment that I can have the 24th. A real thick skull this guy has.
I explain, NO, I wasn't saying I paid, but that I was saying he told me full payment to book, website says they only require deposit. He ends up giving me this whole sob story about how people have burned them in the past, and they've lost revenue, which is why they require full payment. And he will have to look at the website to see if it needs to be changed. Then he spews something about how a "security deposit" is for damages and cleaning, and isn't the same as a "rental deposit" to secure your date. I don't even know what the heck he was saying, and why pull out a term like "rental deposit," when it apparently doesn't matter-because you're saying no matter what you need full payment!!!!
Ugh.
 I can't even talk about it anymore right now.

 Logan was sick since Friday, massive diarrhea. Finally seems to be gone today.
My dad has been sick since Monday, barely out of bed. Now tonight he passed out again. He's currently at the hospital with my mom.
Meredith has been having eye issues, so yesterday we went to her primary doctor, and got a referral to a pediatric ophthalmologist to see what they need to do-possibly surgery. She's also still not walking or even crawling. We are on week 4 of physical therapy :-(
I'm just stressed and exhausted.

I need a vacation.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

It's been a taxing day....

Pun intended.

We had our tax appt. today, and good news! We will be making out good after all is said and done with our taxes. A relief, and a much needed one. And we were even able to do some stuff to help out with my parents taxes after the difficult year they've had. Also very, very good news.

On the other end of the spectrum, Logan's been kind of sick. No coughing, no throwing up, no fever. But some serious diarrhea, resulting in a serious rash. He took 3 baths in one day the other day because he butt and legs were so red and burned-looking from his sour poopy :-(
He must have some kind of weird stomach virus or something. I haven't taken him to the doctor, because frankly I'm sure there isn't anything they will do but tell me it's probably a virus. If he starts throwing up, or running a fever I will take him in, but for now it's just a 'sour belly' as gramma calls it. Poor baby. He's fighting us at diaper changes, didn't even want to sit down in the tub. Absolutely breaks me heart. The poor kid is just not feeling well and his butt hurts so bad. Watching him cry was almost physically painful for me. Seeing your child in pain is definitely the worst.

We also have a SUPER busy week coming this week. So I'm hoping he is feeling better by Monday morning. I've got 6 appointments this week, plus making another stop at the tax office. So I'm definitely thinking by Friday evening I'm going to be totally exhausted. A sick kid and a busy week are not a fun combination.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Superbowl Sunday!

Not going to lie, not that interested in the Superbowl this year (or any other year really to be honest). It was a good excuse to break out the deep fryer and eat some unhealthy food though. Mozzarella sticks, chicken wings, chicken tenders, green bean fries, jalapeno poppers, potato skins and other junk.
We have a pretty busy day tomorrow, I've got a couple of appointments with the kids. And I think I'm going to have to schedule another. Meredith has her 1 year wellcheck checkup in a few weeks, but I am on the fence about whether to call and schedule an appointment for her sooner. I'd noticed it a little bit here and there I thought, but just recently I am really noticing that her right eye seems to be funny. I don't know how to explain it, but it seems that sometimes it's almost drifting the wrong way? I don't know. That doesn't really explain it. I don't want to call it a lazy eye....because I just hate that term, and I don't want to have to say those words out loud that that's what it is...but something just doesn't seem right. And it's becoming more frequent/noticeable. So needless to say, I'm worried. My husband was told when he was a lot younger that he had astigmatism, and that sometimes his one eye can kind of seem like it's not looking straight ahead, I guess, for lack of a better explanation. So I don't know if this could be something genetic/hereditary or something...I don't know what to think. It's worrying me, I'm upset. Of course I will think she's beautiful no matter what, but you hate for your kid to possibly have something that might cause any extra pain or embarrassment later on in life. Kids are mean enough as it is. I don't want her to endure anything additional. I'm worried it may require special glasses, or surgery. But in another way I almost hope it's something that can be fixed with special glasses or surgery. Does that sound stupid? I'd be a nervous wreck and so scared if it was something that required surgery, but to know it could be taken care of and gone would also be a relief. I'm such a nervous worrier. Sigh.
I also have about a billion other things to do tomorrow. But I have a feeling I won't get to most of them!
We have our tax appt. on Saturday afternoon and I am cautiously optimistic that maybe we can get a nice refund. I will probably cry if it's less than the minimum I was hoping for. Yeah, I know it's just money. But I had a specific amount in mind I wanted to open a savings account for each kid with. Plus pay off 2 credit cards. So like I said....I remain cautiously optimistic. I'm nervous, but hopeful. We'll see I guess....
Anyway, back to my millions of things to do. I have a lot of recipes and things I found on Pinterest that I want to try. And I need to finalize and figure things out for Meredith's birthday party. It won't be until March, but I am searching for the cheapest possible places to get the things I want (like I looked at 10 different sites for her decor), plus will be trying to sell more stuff on Ebay (like I did to finance Christmas), in order to pay for her party. I do big first birthdays. I don't care what anyone thinks. It's as much for me, as it is for them. People always say why bother, they won't remember it....blah blah blah. But I will. And I like to make a big deal out of turning 1. So yeah. It will be a nice shindig. But that takes careful planning and budgeting. We won't be ordering food from anywhere like I did for Logan's first birthday (finances were way more flexible then), so I ordered fried chicken from a local store and a few other special things. But we've come up with a nice cheap menu, that offers a few unique options, so that won't cost us much there. I'm making a few small desserts/munchies on the side. I go big on the cake, especially for the first birthday like I said. But the cost of the cake I want was already SIGNIFICANTLY less than what I paid for Logan's 1st birthday cake. Plus my friend works there and is getting me a discount. AND I won't be needing to buy a separate "baby cake" for her, because part of the big cake is removable and will be "her" baby cake :-) So that's cutting my cake costs in like, half. or less.
Most of my budget will be decorations. But to keep cost down again, we are only doing her "theme," plates/napkins for the dessert plates/dessert napkins. I am getting pretty solid colored plastic plates and napkins for the food in the same colors as her theme. I'm also going to do just one theme tablecloth for the gift table. Again, solid colored tablecloths for the other tables. Balloons, ribbon for the balloons, a highchair decorating kit, and maybe a banner. And a photo invite. I did it for Logan's first, so I'm doing it for hers too. All in all, it's not too expensive, and saves me the time and hassle of writing out a ton of invites.
So I've really got to get on all of that and figuring stuff out. I know I've got time, but I try to be organized when I can, and I know it's going to creep up on me fast!

Anyway, I'd better get off here and attempt to maybe be productive while I still have some energy!!

Friday, February 3, 2012

The early bird gets the blog!

Up early today. Specifically with purpose of doing some internet/e-mail stuff.
I am NOT a morning person by any means. But it does give me the opportunity to get things done in some peace and quiet without worrying about the doorbell/phone ringing, someone needs to be fed/changed or making a mess. I should probably start making this a habit and try to get up extra early at least once a week.

Meredith had her 4th physical therapy session yesterday, and it went pretty well. At the first 3 sessions she was a bit of a brat, and just pretty much laid or sat there and didn't want to roll or move or do anything!! Hard to work with her when she won't move!! Such a stinker. But yesterday she did good, a lot better with the rolling and even other exercises Sarah (the PT), wanted her to do. She thinks Meredith could be crawling by our next session on Monday if we do a little work with her over the weekend. Which made my little heart so happy. I was really kind of worried they might find something and think she had some kind of real problem or issue. But I get the impression Sarah thinks Meredith will be moving along pretty quickly and will be just fine :-)
Definitely made me happy to hear. So as much as I don't want my little princess growing up and getting bigger on me, we will be doing some therapy exercises and working on crawling this weekend! As it is, on Monday we stood her up next to her little Winnie the Pooh toy table and she stood up against it holding on, all on her own for several minutes! I almost shed a tear.
So hopefully a little exercise and this physical therapy is all she needs for a few weeks and we can get her moving (which she needs! You should see these rolls on her chubby thighs!!), and she won't be my sweet little baby anymore, but a moving, roaming toddler!

I don't think we have any huge plans for today other than dinner and shopping.
We were supposed to do breakfast for dinner last night, but we went out to price check some items, and by the time we got home it was a little late, and the kids just needed to eat, so I threw together something for Logan and fed the baby, and Matt was at work anyway, so I didn't even really 'make' dinner. Oh well.
The plan is now to do breakfast for dinner tonight, and hopefully try out this new pancake recipe I found on Pinterest. I've been on it before, but only just really started using it this week. If you think Facebook or blogging is addictive, don't even try Pinterest!! I'm still learning to use it, and I know some people probably think it's a fad, and just the hot new thing, but honestly, I love it. It's like an interactive, online bookmarking, social-media information/inspiration center. Sure, I could just google search things and bookmark them on my own computer. But this give you a bright, photographic way to bookmark and organize things on your own 'online pinboard' and even see what's popular and what other people thought of things. And you can find and be inspired by things you didn't even know existed or you liked!! I've also got my mom on, and it's been a little hard explaining it to her, especially because I'm new. But she will see something she likes, then click it, and be all confused as to where the recipe is, or where the instructions are. Which is where I'm trying to explain to her that she can click the original link so see where the item "came" from. Which I agree, can be a pain in the butt sometimes. But I love the overall idea. And I'm a very visual person, so being able to pick from photos to decide what to click and read is great for me.
And as for shopping, today will be a big one! I know we're going to be laying out quite a bit of money today, which sucks, but it is great in the overall scheme of things. I have MASSIVE coupons we need to use. I have 2 kiddos in diapers right now, so we go through quite a few diapers. I've got a $5 off Target coupon, AND a $2 off Manufacturer coupon for Huggies (not my favorite, but at these prices, it will work!!), PLUS for every 2 boxes you buy this week you get a $15 Target giftcard to use on a future purchase! Can you beat that??? Seriously.
So I will be saving $7 on each box of diapers, and getting giftcards back. Awesome. Yep, I get excited about this stuff. I love saving money in general, but when it's on 'necessities' it's even better. Right now Target also had printable coupons for $1 off any Up and Up (their store brand) paper towels. No size limit. Their single rolls are .99! Thanks for the free paper towels Target! :-)
I've also got a few other nice coupons to use on some stuff we need and could use. So yay.

Well, it's getting late now and I also want to hop onto Pinterest before the kids get up, so I better finish this up!
Happy Friday!

Monday, January 30, 2012

Another Sunday gone!

I am finding myself sitting here on this VERY late Sunday night, wondering how a whole week went by and I haven't blogged.
I'm once again, not really sure where the week went.
I am hoping things can feel like they will slow down a little bit sometime soon, but somehow I doubt that! Especially with 2 kids! Especially now that I have additional appointments for them too!

This past Monday was Meredith's first physical therapy appointment. We first spoke with her pediatrician about all this at her 9 month well check visit, when she still wasn't really sitting on her own very good. She'd rock back and forth and what we called "dance" and would fall right over almost immediately. So we consulted with the doctor on some concerns, and she agreed her gross motor skills might be lagging. Of course, just a couple weeks later, she started sitting like a pro, like she'd been doing it for years. But she still wasn't crawling, and definitely not walking. We were going through this program called Help Me Grow, and once we got all done with them and referred we got into this highly recommended place called Ferrell Whited physical therapy. The first visit was around an hour and half long, lots of questions, histories, getting info on her brother's development, then a lot of exercises and evaluating her. She asked if the doctors ever had any concerns about her hips (which I replied 'no', but never really asked why she asked that. I'm not sure if she was taking a history, or if she had a concern. Then we had our second appt. on Thursday and I forgot again!!). The therapist seems in agreement that she could use a little help and exercise basically, and gives me the impression she should move along quickly. We are doing 2 sessions a week for 6 weeks. Then we will re-evaluate and discuss where we think we are at, and if we want to cut it back to once a week, stop, etc. Our appointments will be Mondays and Thursday to keep it kind of evenly spaces and not wear her out. I'll be excited to report to her tomorrow that over the weekend Meredith has REALLY been getting up high on her knees! I'm so proud. And tonight she tried to start pulling herself up on some things! She didn't get anywhere, but it was great to see her reaching and trying with no incentive or coaxing from us!

In other news, my brother has had a friend in town this weekend, and she has a 2 year old son. So Logan has had a playmate for the last 3 days and has been ABSOLUTELY loving it! I can definitely see he needs more friends and interaction with kids his age. He was supposed to be starting a preschool/daycare thing, but now I found out that wouldn't likely be taking place until Fall. Buttttt I was made aware that since he also qualifies through the Help Me Grow program, for having a little delayed speech, he may be eligible to attend the Achievement Center for FREE! However they apparently normally have a waiting list. So I need to call and see if they currently have a wait, how long, etc. And see how that all works. Maybe we can get him some playtime with friends and some learning experience soon!! He really enjoys having kids his age around to interact with, I wish I had more friends with kids his age!!

Monday, January 23, 2012

Weekend Re-cap

I'm not even sure where the weekend went. It's funny because on Friday I woke up and it felt like a Sunday to me. So I was excited when I kind of remembered/realized the weekend hadn't even started. And now here I am, 1am Sunday night (Monday actually), and I'm not even sure where the weekend went or what I did!!
Last week was rough. I didn't get sleep really for 3 consecutive nights in row, each because of a different person (Tues-my dad, Weds & Thurs-each one of the kids). Then with Matt's grandfather passing away, we went to the viewing/wake on Thursday, then he ended up just staying the night at his brother's on Thursday night and went to the funeral with him on Friday so I didn't have to worry about going and standing in the cold. I'm sad he passed, but we weren't close and I had only met him a handful of times. We brought the baby with us on Thursday and she was VERY good, and people coo-ed over and thought she was just adorable. Matt is also not very close with a lot of his family, and this has left me with a bit of a dilemma!!
Now Meredith was born in February 2011. Matt's father and girlfriend came to Logan's 2nd birthday party in July (the first "event" they've ever come to since our wedding. I always send birthday invites/photos/cards, etc. I am sure to never leave anyone out-that's on them). Well they didn't come to Logan's 1st birthday, but did come to his 2nd. So they met and held Meredith then. Now maybe it's partly my fault, but when people ask her name, for some reason we usually reply "Meredith Olivia." I'm not sure. Maybe it's because people would ask her middle name to? So we just started saying her first and middle name? I don't really know. But it became habit.
Now we got a Christmas card from Dave & Jackie (Matt's father and girlfriend). It was to "Matt, Tiffany, Logan, and Olivia." I was a little miffed. Matt was more on the side of it being a nice gesture. Well, I had sent out photos of the kids to people, them included. And to make it easier on me, this year I had like little name address labels printed up, with their names, ages, etc. So there could be no mistake on my hand writing being bad or something, it very clearly printed said "Meredith Olivia Patterson, 9 months old." So I had hoped those labels on the back of the photos would clear up any confusion on her name. I was wrong.
Dave referred to her once as Olivia, and Matt quietly corrected him (I forget exactly what he said). Well either Dave didn't hear, wasn't listening, I don't know what!! Because then he and Jackie are introducing her to people as Olivia!! Even worse, I had already told some of these people her name was Meredith!! Then someone asked Dave how many grandkids he had, and he was talking to a huge group of people, and he says "Kayla, Logan, and little Olivia over here." And pointed to her. I was sort of mortified. I told Matt he needs to find a way to correct them!! How long can we let this go on? I guess whatever birthday invites I have printed up, I will be sure to have them say ONLY Meredith in HUGE BOLD LETTERS, and hope that clears it up. Though at this point I'm sure they'd just be confused!!! It's embarrassing for everyone at this point. I don't want to make them feel bad, or have that awkward moment, but she's almost a year old, I can't have this going on for any longer. Especially if they want to see these kids more like they claim.
If he still does it after the birthday invite (And maybe I'll get a big banner with her name on it too?), then Matt definitely needs to have a chat with his dad.
Like I said, I feel almost like I screwed this up and may have confused them, I don't know. But all her photos (birth announcement, 3 month photos, 6 month photos, & 9 month photos) HAVE ALL had her name on them. How do you miss that?
*Sigh*


Saturday I'm not even sure what we did! Mom, myself and the kids did some shopping in the afternoon, and I think that took up a good portion of our day. We had coupons expiring and sales ending, so we had to get the done. Then by the time we got home, fed the kids, got them down for naps, had lunch ourselves, and put groceries away it was getting so late!! Then next thing I knew I was making dinner! After dinner my mom and I went back out to Walmart, which we didn't have time to do earlier in the day to grab a few last minute things. While I'm sure the cashier was just doing her job, she was a little annoying and slow. When she realized we had a good amount of coupons, she STOPPED ringing our stuff up, and actually sat and went through EVERY SINGLE COUPON, one by one, and made sure we had it in our order BEFORE she even rang our items up!I'm pretty sure ALMOST everywhere you shop, if you try to use a coupon for an item you don't have the register will beep and alert the cashier. So I'm not sure why she had to verify like 35 things before she even rang our stuff or tried to scan the coupons. I felt kind of like we were being treated like criminals, or like we were trying to trick her or something!! Now, like I said, maybe the store is just cracking down on their coupon policy or something, but I don't know. Usually anywhere we go they will ring up our items, attempt to scan all our coupons, and THEN if there is any question on use of a coupon, they would check to see what they rung up, and verify we bought it. It was just a little strange. And it took FOREVER for her to get done. Needless to say, I won't go to that cashier again. I am curious to see if this will happen that way the next time we use coupons there. We shall see.....

Today, well, today was kind of a bust. Matt usually lets me sleep in on Sundays since I get up with the kids at night and stuff (he works so much, I don't even make him get up with the kids at night anymore). And I slept in LATE today. Took a shower, cleaned up our room a little, straightened some stuff out in the kids room. Then my mom and I had to vaccuum food seal some meat she bought earlier in the week. Did a little laundry, a little couponing, and not much else. I don't know where the time went. We had a ravioli and sauce with meatballs dinner, and then a small cake afterwards to celebrate my mom's birthday which was on Thursday. I'm not sure if she knew we were doing that or not. But it was nice.

I have a TON of stuff to do tomorrow, and I should be in bed. But I only got Meredith to sleep at a little after 1 (It's like 2:15 now!), and now Logan just was up crying....I got up there and was ready to go in, and he stopped. So I stood there for like 5 minutes, and he was quiet. So I should get to bed now, but I always end up laying there, unable to sleep like almost waiting for one of the kids to start crying again. I can be EXHAUSTED beyond belief and still have the hardest time winding down and falling asleep sometimes. I wonder if other moms have that problem too...
Oh well, I better try to sleep. I need to get up and ready fairly early tomorrow, Meredith and I need to LEAVE the house by 9:30am for her first physical therapy appointment. I'm a little nervous, I hope it goes well.
Wish us luck I guess!!

Friday, January 20, 2012

1/19/12

Today was another eventful, busy day.
Meredith was COMPLETELY uncooperative last night, so for the second night in a row I got basically no sleep. I feel terrible when it's the middle of the night, I've just gotten to or fallen back asleep, then she's up screaming, won't go back to sleep, and I get all irritated. I told myself I was going to stop acting that way. As part of my whole embracing each moment, and appreciating her while she's little (since I'm already missing and yearning for her to be smaller again). But I was extra crabby, probably because I hadn't slept on Tuesday night because of the whole situation with going to the hospital with my dad (I slept from MAYBE about 6:45-8:45am on Wednesday morning). So I'm sure if I'd been running on some kind of sleep from the night before I would've been more patient, but I wasn't. I feel bad when I get angry at my sweet baby girl. But anyway, I finally caved in and gave her a bottle after her screaming and crying inconsolably. I couldn't give her any tylenol or advil for her teeth (it appeared to be teething pain bothering her), because I had already given her some before she went to bed, so it was too soon to give her anything else.I try not to do any feedings in the middle of the night if I can, because I know it can be a bad habit, and a step backwards in the whole getting her to sleep at a decent time, and staying asleep through the night, but oh well, for some reason it worked!
Now tonight, however, Logan has already been up crying twice. So I suspect I may be going on a third night of little sleep! (Right now I'm just finishing up some tea and trying to clear my head before I lay down).

So after getting a little bit of sleep this morning finally (barely), I had to get up and really get my butt in gear. My dad is still in the hospital, and Matt was working during the day. My mom had to take my car so she could go renew her license (Today's her birthday!), then be back her for us to get ready to go to the funeral home for the wake/viewing for Matt's grandpa who passed away on Monday. I decided to take the baby with us. I wasn't sure if my mom was going to attempt to go up to the hospital at all, and if she did, it would be near impossible with her babysitting both kids. And I figured even if she stayed home, just having Logan only might be a bit easier and maybe she could try to rest and relax a little.
Then since we were in Strongsville anyway, I had to make a return to Victoria's Secret from some items I had ordered online, and the mall is right there 2 minutes away, so I ran in there after the viewing to make my returns.
It was FREEZING by the time we left the funeral home. Very bitter cold and windy.
Then when I got home I got Logan's little tush into bed, tried to sit down for a breather, but between getting Meredith up and in bed, and Logan's wake-ups it was pretty hard. I wanted to take a shower, but that just didn't happen. So I'll have to get up early tomorrow so I can do that. Then my mom and I finally got some quiet time, and we sat and watched Grey's Anatomy, and I ate...again....today was a bad day for my diet.I know I've consumed WAY too many calories today. And for the first time in about 10 months I'm drinking regular soda (I had no Pepsi Max cold), yeah, I could've drank water....but I didn't. Oh well. And here I am now! It doesn't sound like much, but today was exhausting.
I would hope I could say tomorrow will be calmer, but they are probably supposed to be releasing my father from the hospital, so I don't want to even venture to think it may be a calm day.
They think they found the possibly main cause of his passing out. I hope so. Because this was getting ridiculous.
They did this tilt-table text and have concluded it must be his low blood pressure. He used to have high blood pressure, and weigh over 200. Well after the Kidney Cancer and removal, he dropped over 40 lbs. without even trying. And in turn it seems to have drastically dropped his blood pressure. So they want him to gain some weight back, raise his blood pressure (eat as much salty food as he likes!), and out him on new medication. So hopefully, maybe that will be the end of this!!
I can only hope...